Some people just seem to be love and attention magnets don’t they? They walk past a crowd or into a party and they automatically turn heads.
What is this so-called ‘X’ factor and where can you get some?
While physical attractiveness matters – everyone has different physical characteristics they find appealing. And it doesn’t all have to do with how you look on the outside, but what you bring in terms of openness, friendliness, empathy and a curiosity about others.
A focus on personal development and working on overcoming shyness can dial up your magnetism. Also remember to have open body language – don’t cross your arms, try to lightly touch people when you are conversing with them and lean into people to listen.
Here are 5 secrets of irresistible people …
Humour is oh so sexy. A good laugh makes you feel good and someone who makes you laugh will have you feeling all warm and fuzzy pretty fast.
Not a natural comedian?
According to Mating Intelligence Unleashed: The Role of the Mind in Sex, Dating and Love, men like women who laugh at their jokes, so giggle along to everyone else if your jokes fall flat.
“Nothing makes a woman more beautiful that the belief that she is beautiful. said Hollywood icon, Sophia Loren.
And she’s right.
Walk into a room with a swing to your hips, a smile and an open, friendly demeanour and people will be curious.
Talk to people who are standing alone and introduce yourself.
Make eye contact with people and ask them questions about themselves.
Don’t be shy – and if you are shy, take a deep breath and remember, most people are nervous in social situations. They may be relieved that you’ve come to chat.
Focus on you
According to the book, Make Every Man Want You: How to Be So Irresistible You’ll Barely Keep from Dating Yourself! (McGraw-Hill) you need to focus on you and how you can make yourself more appealing to everyone.
Start learning to love yourself inside and out and embrace your uniqueness. Make a list of things YOU like to do and do them. Meditate daily using an app – just a few minutes is plenty to get started. Meditation is a great way to get clear about what you want and with time it brings a calm and relaxed demeanour too.
Dress sexy – for you
You can’t underestimate the power of a sexy new scent and a matching set of lacy underwear – whether you have a man to get up close and personal with, or not.
Wearing silk knickers and a sensual perfume will have you feeling desirable and therefore you will exude feminine confidence. Daily. Buy some here.
We hear this a lot – being authentic, living your truth, but what does it really mean?
Being authentic is knowing your boundaries and values and sticking to them. It also means going with your gut feelings and not living life just because you think that’s what you SHOULD be doing.
People can smell authenticity – even if they don’t know it. And an authentic, centred person is like catnip!
Spend some time thinking about what ‘your truth’ is. What you will and won’t do in life, work and relationships – and assert yourself. Stick to your guns. And stand up for things you believe in, despite the consequences.
Someone with clear boundaries is authentic, strong and irresistible.