- The clitoral orgasm (AKA the standard)
The clitoris is the most sensitive erogenous zone for women with around 8000 nerve endings within an area about the size of a pea. You’ll find this button of joy between the inner folds of the labia minora at the top.It’s about 4-5 mm long and expands when it gets aroused with blood flow increasing and the clit swelling up.
This button-like epicentre of female pleasure has a glans, hood and erectile tissue – even a teeny shaft.
In fact, the clitoris is surprisingly similar to the penis but tinier and assembled in a different way.
And the clit is just the tip of the iceberg – only the head and the hood are visible outside the body.
Most women need some sort of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm – in fact, only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic through vaginal intercourse alone.
Get started: Grab some lube and start by stimulating your own clitoris so you know what your clit loves and what it loathes! Experiment with different speeds, textures and style of your strokes. Then get your partner to lick your clit with his/her tongue – tell them to stroke it, suck it, lick it. Start slow and build up speed. Boom!
- The Vajazzle
While orgasming from just penile penetration is not as easy to achieve for most women, a vaginal orgasm can shake you to your core. With a patient, loving partner (or a hi-tech sex toy!) – you might just get there.
The vaginal orgasm is commonly thought to be caused by G-spot stimulation. The Gräfenberg spot is an erogenous area inside the vagina on the front wall, which when stimulated, can lead to powerful climaxes and even female ejaculation.
Get started: Remember orgasms can take time – so take foreplay slowly. Kissing, licking, touching and don’t let him penetrate you until you are fully aroused and lubricated – you’re much more likely to orgasm.
Once you are ready, try the cow girl or girl-on-top position and lean back slightly putting your knees on the bed either side of him, to angle his penis so it strokes the front wall of your vagina. Get him to experiment with the speed of his stroke and try different angles and positions. Everyone has their favourite!
Alternatively, try the straddle – get him to enter you in missionary position but rather than both legs inside yours, get him to place one leg outside one of yours – the slight change in the angle of penetration can stroke different parts of the vaginal wall and bring you to an earth-shattering climax.
- The Fusion ‘O’
If you’re struggling to orgasm just through intervcourse, dial it up a little or a lot by trying to reach a clitoral orgasm while your partner is inside you.
Getting started: Either stimulate yourself with your fingers while he enters you from behind or jump on top and touch yourself while you grind up and down. And side to side – or whatever takes your fancy.
Remember, you can also get him to lick your clit while gently inserting a sex toy inside you for a mind-blowing orgasm.
- The Coregasm
Pilates addicts have been discussing the coregasm for years.
The coregasm is a no-mate required climax that some women have experienced while working on their core or doing Pilates. Yep, really.
Known as the exercise-induced orgasm – it’s an orgasm that comes on slowly from the inside out, caused by movements involving the group of muscles called your core muscles, including your pelvic floor.
A study by Indiana University surveyed 530 women and found 246 of them had experienced a exercise-induced orgasm. 124 of the women reported the activities that worked best as cycling, rope climbing, yoga, weight lifting, and running. Leg pullups on “The Captain’s Chair” were the most commonly reported exercises to induce a coregasm.
Get started: To take it from Pilates class back into the bedroom, during intercourse, try gripping your partner’s cock with your vaginal-wall muscles, then release. This gentle tightening and release of your pelvic floor muscles can stimulate your man big time and also bring you to an intense, deep orgasm that seems to come in slow, blissful waves. If you know how to contract and relax your pelvic floor muscles, you’ll find all your orgasms become more intense and you’ll be able to control the timing of your orgasms better.
- The Goosebump
If you’ve ever listened to a piece of haunting music and felt a tingling all over your skin like waves of bliss – you may have had a skin orgasm.
The experience is called frisson and the French term means aesthetic chills.
These spine tingles often occur while listening to music because some of the best composers build and release tension in the score of music, stimulating our pleasure centres.
There are five common ways thought by experts to trigger a frisson: music, sounds, movies, food and sensual touch.
Get Started: crank up the tunes or get your partner to trace his fingers all over your naked body. For hours. And hours. Sigh.